Description
The Repair Tracker
No single argument tells you much about a marriage — but a log of couples working on how they fight, looked at honestly across several fights, usually tells you exactly what’s actually going on underneath.
The Repair Tracker is a log built for couples working on how they fight, not couples trying to stop fighting entirely. Twenty entries, logged whenever a disagreement actually happens — not on a calendar — with a milestone review after every five.
This tracker treats couples working on how they fight as needing pattern data, not another rule about fighting fair. Each entry captures what the fight looked like on the surface, what it was probably really about, what helped it end, and how long it took to feel okay again.
What It Helps With:
- Real data for couples working on how they fight, logged as fights actually happen
- Separating the surface topic of a fight from what it’s probably really about
- Tracking whether repair is getting faster over time, or staying stuck
- A milestone review every five entries to catch the pattern, not just the moment
This tracker is for married couples who fight sometimes — which is every couple — and want real information about their own pattern instead of guessing at it. Twenty fights, looked at honestly, will tell you more about your marriage than any single argument ever could, in either direction.
